So, DOMA has been overturned.  It is considered unconstitutional and the Federal Government (to include the military) is scrambling to recognize those that are already married.  And Facebook is bleeding with pro and anti gay marriage opinions.  Every other posting has something to do with it.  Personally, I'm glad it was overturned.  Now if the rest of the states would recognize it, that would be wonderful.  We are all equal in the eyes of the law and for those who are religious in the eyes of God as well.  This is not Animal Farm where some of us are more equal than others, though it sure feels like it sometimes.  Anyway, I'm happy for my son, I'm happy for his gay friends, I am happy for the gay community, and I'm happy that we can begin looking at homosexuality not as an aberration but rather as normal. 

 

My partner and I got into a discussion regarding gay marriage this morning.  I am for it, he is against it which would have been the end of story until we started discussing it.  Seems he's not against civil unions between anyone, but he is not for gay marriage....it's the marriage thing.  And after much contemplation I agree with him.  The answer to this whole entire nation-wide problem is in the wording.

Marriage, as argued by right wing Christians, is between a man and a woman.  Maybe that is how their church interprets it.  Other churches may vary on that opinion but I believe Angelo is right when he says "Marriage is a religious word".

The United States should, therefore, no longer issue Marriage Certificates.  Rather it should issue  Civil Union Certificates.  Once a couple has this, it should be recognized as a partnership and therefore share the benefits (and costs) that government "marriages" now offer.  However, if the couple wants to "marry" that should be dependent on the church and not on the government.

I believe people should have the right to share a relationship with someone of their own choosing.  Not everyone is heterosexual and it's time this is accepted.  They should not be considered aberrant or abnormal for these words annotate that something is wrong with them.  However, a similar word that could be used is different (and some will argue that these words are synonyms yet they are not).  We are all different in some form or another so therefore being "different" is an acceptable adverb to use.

As well, homosexuals make up 10% or more of the sexually active human beings.   In the United States, this makes them a minority and as a minority they have rights, one of which is against discrimination.  Isn't not allowing them to form a civil union, with all the perks, a type of discrimination?  So therefore isn't it against the law?

And how can a couple be "married" in one state but NOT married in another.  It seems that opens doors to polygamy...or is that only for homosexuals which leads to discrimination.

DOMA talks of marriage, it does not speak of civil unions.  There has to be some unity in this county and I believe that changing the phrasing of this could eliminate all the problems therein.  Homosexuals are people, humans, who should have the same freedoms and rights as the rest of those heterosexual humans in the US.  It should be a civil liberty.

Just sayin......